Did you ever feel aggrieved or want to escape from your family, friends, and partner?

Is the following conversation always appear in your life?

“You’ll be sorry if you...”

“A friend would loan me money. How can you say you’re my friend and not help me out when I’m in a bind like this?”

“But this is family. This is what you’re supposed to do for each other.”

Emotional blackmail is one of the most common arguments in recent years. It can occur in every relationship, family, partner, colleague, friend, etc.

The inflicter will use fear, obligation, and guilt to manipulate the victim, in order to control the victim to achieve their purpose. The toxic cycle of emotional blackmail will lead to an unhealthy relationship that the victim ceases to resist any unreasonable requirement from the inflicter.

If you want to stop being emotional blackmail, please start to value your sentiment. You do not need to talk responsibility for anyone’s life.

Try to use the mood diary and take care of our own emotions.

面對最愛的家人、伴侶、朋友，為什麼我們總是感到委屈及想逃避？

「我這麼做都是為了你」、「我為你犧牲這麼多，怎可以這樣對我！」、「我看中你才想讓你多做一點事。」在日常生活中，我們總聽過這些說話。「情緒勒索」是近年常被討論的話題，常見於不同人際關係中，情緒勒索者會在有意識或無意識中，使用要求、威脅、施壓、沉默等手段，讓被勒索者產生各種負面情緒，卻因為在乎對方而屈服，形成一個惡性循環。

試問問自己，你的人生，總是在滿足別人嗎？

如果你的人生，只重視別人而忽略自己的感受，便會常受困於情緒勒索之中。

我們不必常為他人的情緒負責，一同使用情緒日記，好好照顧自己。